Two Under Two ~ A Survivors Guide

Mr. Monster is about to turn two.  His milestone is making me realize that I officially have two toddlers.  No more babies.  And I survived Two under Two.
I guess technically I did that when Little Miss turned Two, but it really didn’t hit me until now.

Two Under Two-Real tips for surviving baby bunching 2 under 2, from someone who's done it.

When I first discovered I was pregnant with baby number two, I was filled with a lot of unknowns.  So I did what we moms do and headed for the internet.  But I never really found what I was looking for.  I found a lot of people telling me to make sure that I put on mascara every day or joking about keeping a stocked wine cabinet.  These are both good tips, but I was looking for logistics….Like how am I supposed to carry around two babies…everywhere.

So I thought I would give you a few of my best tips.

Tips for surviving Two Under Two

~Teach your oldest to walk, holding your hand, as soon as possible.  As soon as Little Miss was walking, I was training her to hold my hand.  She walked into stores, into the house, into school.  All while holding my hand.  So when Mr. Monster came around, I only had to carry an infant carrier and not two babies…at least 75% of the time.

Two Under Two-Real tips for surviving baby bunching, from someone who's done it.

~Find stores that have double shopping carts.  Target and Costco are two good examples.  I don’t want to admit how long it took me to realize that I could utilize a double shopping cart at Target.  Just be careful.  Those carts take practice to drive.  You’ll most certainly run into a clothing rack at least one time, every time you shop.

~Invest in a good double stroller.  I can’t recommend one because this is something that I’m going put in my lesson learned column.  I had a second-hand double stroller that was given to me. Don’t get me wrong, it was a lovely gesture.  But looking back, I should have spent the money.  Do your research.  Be able to open and close it easily.  Make sure that your infant carrier fits properly in it.

~On a similar note, get a good baby sling.  Make sure it’s comfortable and easy for you to use. The model I used is discontinued, but it clipped together in seconds.  Susie used one of those that she wrapped around her body, which she loved…but I could never get them to work right.  Whichever one you choose, practice putting it on and taking it off.

~Shop in the evening.  When the kids go to bed, head out for some quiet shopping.  You might be tired, but it’s worth it.  I did all my Christmas shopping between 8:00pm and 10:00pm.  And it was glorious.

Two Under Two-Real tips for surviving baby bunching, from someone who's done it.

~Make an extra effort to have one on one time with your oldest.  They will need the attention.  Schedule it and make it special.  Which isn’t hard, a one-year-old is very easily entertained.

~Keep your new baby out of reach.  Your oldest won’t completely understand that this is not a more life-like version of her baby doll.  I once had Mr. Monster laying in a Boppie, on the floor; I walked into the room and Little Miss was straddling him.  All I could see was his bald little head and his arms flailing…poor kid.  I can laugh about it now…but at the time, it was terrifying!

Two Under Two-Real tips for surviving baby bunching, from someone who's done it.

With all these tips…keep in mind the following:

~There will be tears.  Yours and theirs.

~Your house will be a mess.

~You will deserve to end every night with either wine or ice cream (some nights both).

~You will survive it.

~It will all be worth it.

Two Under Two-Real tips for surviving baby bunching, from someone who's done it.

If you’re still wanting more tips on 2 under 2, check out the great list at Parenting From The Heart.  Another survivor.

How many of you have survived baby bunching?  Do you have any recommendations?

Please share this with anyone you know that’s expecting their two under two!


Susie's Sister Side Note

I used a Moby Baby Wrap
and Loved it. There are many more options these days like Tulas
and more! Having the baby near you allows for so much more movement!


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25 thoughts on “Two Under Two ~ A Survivors Guide

  • Morgan @ Morgan Manages Mommyhood

    I love that all of these tips are out of the “normal” posts you typically see on this topic. I never even though about the first tip!! So smart. I think I would use a carrier basically non stop, which I did with my son. Future me thanks you for these tips!!

  • Tricia

    My son will just be a little over 2 when my girl is born, but these are still great tips! It’s a big change going from one to two. I need all the help I can get! Sharing on twitter.

  • Tarynn Playle

    Absolutely every one of these! My daughter was two when my youngest was born, but I still had some of the same questions. How do I shop, how do I carry both? I love the double carts at Costco because they are the same as regular carts with two spaces-so much easier to steer than those big carts! Love this!!

  • Melissa

    These are some great tips. I can’t imagine two under two. My kids were 3 1/2 years apart. When my son was a baby, I always had him in a carrier and put my daughter in the shopping cart. When he got around one, I took full advantage of the giant Target shopping cart.

  • Lindsey

    I’m very nervous- my first (adopted) daughter will be 8 months by the time my 1st is born. Any tips on how I can figure out that would be welcome!!

    • Kate
      Kate Post author

      The first thing that comes to mind is to invest in a good, comfortable baby carrier. I believe that you can even carry both with a Moby. (I’ve never tried it, so you may want to research) Good luck to you! You’ll do fine!

  • Yatz

    I liked so much your post. We have a 7 month baby girl and we just find out Im pregnant again. Its scary but its another blessing. Thanks for all the tips.

  • Karen

    My youngest 2 are 12 months and six days apart (2nd you gest was born 12 weeks early and youngest came 8 weeks early). I should have read these tips from day one but 7 months after last baby was born is still helpful. Having a baby in hr NICU is even more challenging because my then 1 yr old had to deal with mommy being gone alot all of a sudden. I definitely felt guilty for leaving him but also for not being with my youngest in thr NICU as much as I had been with the baby the year before. We also have a 3 year old and two kids in school. 3 kids ages 3, 1 and newborn was very overwhelming. Asking for help and making freezer meals are good tips as well (not that I always did these things). Thanks for the great tips.

    • Kate
      Kate Post author

      Wow! That’s quite a lot on your plate! Good job juggling it all. Asking for help is definitely an important one. And I love a good freezer meal. Thank you!

  • Terra

    Thanks for the tips! I just found out I’m pregnant and I have a 5-month-old! We have mix feelings, but it’s not like we didn’t want more (just not this soon!) Oops! A little terrified…I’m a teacher and I’m nervous my employers and co-workers will not be happy with another maternity leave so soon. Ugh! Need tips on how to tell my co-workers?!?!

    • Kate
      Kate Post author

      I can totally relate! I was terrified to tell my boss and co-workers. I was very happily surprised. My boss was very happy for us. With the co-workers, friends, and family be prepared for the “you know how to prevent that, don’t you” or “you know what causes that” comments. 🙂 But that was the worst of it. Most people were very excited for us. You’ll be surprised how many people have babies close together. You’re definitely not alone!


  • Veronica

    My son was born when my daughter was 14 months old. I tought “this will be extremely complecated “ but it wasn’t so bad.
    I design 4 special boxes fill with safe and interesting stuff for my daughter to Play with only while I was breastfeeding my son and spred them arround the House. This way she would stay close to me but interested in something else than her brother and me

  • Jenny

    I know this is a super old blog post but I just wanted to thank you for these tips! I read this before my second came. Now they are ages 1 and 2. I still don’t feel fully out of the two under two, but your tips were the only useful ones I could find on the internet and helped me a ton the last year. Thank you!!

  • Osha

    Well actually I had two under two it was really amazing my little girl is still young she is five months old and the older one is 1 1/2 years old and they are amazing together the older one always tries to kiss her and give her her pacifier and give her milk she is so amazing she is like an adult but sometimes she acts jealousy and slaps her .I really enjoyed reading this article thank you. Also what helped me so much is hiring a maid to help me with the cleaning and taking care of the girls.

  • Chelsea

    We just found out we are pregnant with #4 our oldest is 8 and our middle is 6 our youngest is 8 months old. It took us a while to conceive our youngest so that’s what I was expecting again. We hadn’t even officially started trying and I was pregnant right away! A very happy surprise! We wanted more kids just not this soon lol we are extremely excited but I don’t think it’s fully hit me yet (I’m only 6 weeks) I came across this post and it’s the only positive one I’ve seen so far. The other I’ve read came across very negative to me. Thank
    You for your insight!