Raw Mom Rant

Nothing bugs me more than when I get a glare from a stranger when making a parenting decision. First of all it is My kid, second of all it is None of Your business!! 

At our grocery store, like many across the country, they give out free cookies to the kids… Now I know what some people might be thinking; it’s just a cookie right. Well to me it isn’t. We try to keep desserts to a weekend or special occasion thing in our home. Then, for the most part, I am choosing what is going into their precious little tummies.

A few years back I had a day where I saw the light… and by light I mean an article all about GMOs. Now this isn’t going to be a post about that (although I could go on and on about it) but I realized at that moment I had no idea what was in the food I was feeding my little boy. I was instantly scared into becoming a label reading junkie. That’s right:

“Hi, My name is Susie, and I can not buy anything without reading the label.”

I lean towards organic on a lot of my food purchases now. Keeping that on a budget is tricky, that is why we have started to share the tips we use on the blog. It is doable and our babies are worth every penny. I will spend $200 at the grocery store, but never own a $200 purse… And I am OK with that.
Back to that lady (stranger) at the deli counter. The woman behind the counter offered V (she’s 20months old) a cookie.  I declined and told her that if she could cut me off an extra piece of cheese, that would be great. She smiled and passed V a piece of Gouda. V kicked her feet, said “thanks” and was happy. The stranger lady behind me actually said to her husband “I can’t believe she wouldn’t let her have a cookie”  REALLY?!? 
{in my head}
1.It was 10:30am.  To me that isn’t cookie time. Ever. (ok, maybe Christmas)
2. It was one of those sugar ones with an inch of pink icing. (yes, they are yummy) but why would I want my child to learn to want that much sugar? Sugar is addicting!!
3.Kids at that age don’t forget. I see so many kids run straight to the counter for their cookie. Then they are the ones getting yelled at in the check out line for being antsy. Well you just let them eat about 30grams of sugar, what did you think would happen?
I am perfectly happy letting my kids splurge from time to time. J gets to buy suckers at school for fundraisers; I buy cookies that do not contain artificial colors or flavors for around the house.  I do trade candy with him on big holidays as much as possible. (like the switch witch for Halloween). He doesn’t go without sweets. I just try to keep it in moderation, it shouldn’t be expected it should be a treat.
The biggest thing is, it is:

My Child which means it is My Choice!!

I don’t grab a mom giving her baby one of those cookies and give her a piece of my mind so I don’t expect the latter….

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Wow.  The nerve of some people.  I hate having to defend healthy eating habits!

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21 thoughts on “Raw Mom Rant

  • Crystal Foose

    I am pretty free with the sweets at my house, mostly because I have lost control with so many getting older. I still wouldn't have let a 1 year old have a cookie in the store at 10 am! It would be a huge mess!

  • Traci Rhoades

    Go girl 🙂 We try very hard to have our baked goods homemade by us. It's a great chance to bond in the kitchen and we control the amount of butter, shortening, sugar, etc. BUT yes, on occasion, she asks for the icing with a hint of cookie from the deli. Hoping she grows out of it like Mom did! You're right – our choice.

    • Twitchetts Blogspot

      My oldest knows that his taste buds have changed. He really doesn't like the cookies that are overloaded with sugar anymore! Don't get me wrong he still likes some sweets from time to time…. He just knows to choose them wisely. Which makes me happy 🙂

  • Bethany Magnie

    This will be me when my baby starts eating solids! We already have gotten a ton of comments about how we won't let her have a binky/lightup toys/let her sleep in our bed, but most of this comes from family. If a stranger said something to me about my parenting I might just have to say something back.

  • onlyashes85

    Ugh. That is all I can say. It is so admirable that you take such care with what you give your children. If people only realized what was in our food. People will always gripe about something when it comes to how others raise their children. Glad that you're able to just do your own thing!

  • Lisa D

    Parenting is hard and everyone has their own opinion. I think it's great that you're so concerned with what your little one puts in their body! Not everyone does that, but it doesn't mean they get to say snotty comments about it. I'm sorry this bothered you. If I had a child (I'm a nanny but no kids of my own yet) Id feel just like you did.

  • Melissa Matters

    You are so right! Once they get one cookie, they will remember it every single time. Kids are offered way too much sugar. I actually stopped having my daughter go to a certain ballet class because the lady gave the kids candy almost every single week. All those pieces of candy/ cookies really start to add up.

    • Twitchetts Blogspot

      I had a similar reaction when J played soccer last year. After the game some parents would bring juice and cookies… To me I have a hard time grasping the thought process that led them to the decision to bring that for an after sport snack. I would stuff them in my purse give him a water bottle, and hope he forgot before we were home. Sorry that is a whole other Rant right there LOL

  • Jessica Allen

    Yep, your child, your decision. I'm sorry that lady said what she did and upset you. I'd be annoyed by that comment, too. Why people feel the need to voice every thought they have is beyond me. If it had been my child, I would've said no to the cookie as well…those grocery store cookies make my kids go CRAZY!

    • Twitchetts Blogspot

      That good old phrase, 'If you don't have something nice to say, don't say anything at all' Trust me there are many times when I bite my tongue.. Like even talking back in this situation… Not always the easiest thing to do, glad you understand my point of view 🙂

  • Alyssa Zapinski

    I agree. Though, I've found myself questioning some parenting decisions I've seen in public that seemed damaging more than protecting. For example, a woman would come into where I work with her boys (who were not really behaving poorly at all) and if they'd do anything even kind of out of line, she would hold up a wooden spoon and start screaming at them. In a bookstore. So, I guess I agree if what you're doing isn't damaging or borderline child abuse.

  • M

    Ugh. People are so rude! She didn't know if your child has an allergy and could become very sick eating a cookie. Or if she just had a few at home, or if there's a cake waiting for dessert! Geez.

  • J Young

    That's awesome that she gave her a little piece of cheese instead, at my grocery store, they're not right next to each other. And it never ceases to amaze me what strangers feel entitled to have an opinion on. 🙂

  • Rachel

    That was definitely uncalled for. She should realize that it's generally considered more polite to keep opinions to yourself. I grew up in, and currently live in a culture that does not keep opinions to oneself, and I've learned to go with it and not take offense at anything–but in America, that's much more shocking.

  • ananda

    such a great choice! gouda over cookie!! it's so important to have children form taste for healthier and more nutricious food when they are young! bravo! =)

  • Jaclyn Kent

    I couldn't agree more! I don't often read labels or shop specifically to avoid certain additives, but I do think that children are introduced to sweets and junk way too early and it is a big reason for childhood obesity. There was a lot of pressure to do a cake smash at one years old and allow my child to dig into a whole cake on his own. Nope. People already give him candy in his Easter basket. Thanks, I'll take that. Worst of all, people casually give him a bite of their candy/sweets. My son is two. He doesn't even realize what candy is…and I'd like to keep it that way! There are healthy "sweets", anyway, like fruit!